Inner Eye Connections with Medium Patty Horton

   Medium, Trance Medium, Spiritual Teacher   

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Faith is an unseen force that can move mountains.....

When we get lost in our faith it is our faith which carries us over any terrain.

It gives us strenght beyond the any measure and sustains us when we are in need. 

Our faith is the building block that creates the foundation of our home.

Our home, when looked at from an internal perspective can give us a hope when in need of faiths grace.

When in tune with this truth the human being realizes that all things are possible through him.

Jesus taught us humility and it is one of the greatest gifts that we can give to ourselves.

When we are humble, we in a sense push the ego aside. This is where our judgments of people and situations cease to exist. This is where we do not posture for position. This is where we see each person, place or even thing as neutral. This is how we create a place of equality for all who gather within our proximity.

Some may tell you that being humble is for the weak. I will tell you it takes a person of great strength to not make others feel weak within their presence. This is called elevation through love.

Those who pray together like in a church congregation for example, amplify the energy of that prayer and where it becomes universal in nature. This is where the heart’s desire of many, are asking for the same thing. This is where they raise their voices in song and in prayer for divine intervention.

When we pray Universally and with others, we amplify that prayer 10-fold.

In essence, God hears all prayers, and from all people. These prayers are then answered in God’s perfect timing.

Where have you asked for or have been a part of multiple people praying for the same outcome?

How was the power of that universal prayer answered?

A moment of reflection would benefit you here.

There will never be a battle that will serve anything other than your own ego.

When untempered the ego can wield a mighty sword.

This sword not only wounds another, but it also cuts deeply into the one who holds the hilt.

We have many teachers that will grace our path. From our parents to our schoolteachers. From our religious leaders to our spiritual gurus. From our bosses to our peers. From our brothers to our sisters.

Many will grace our lives, to teach us what we are hungry for. It is from their own table where they will share the bounty with you. It is from the bounty where you are fed.

Take a moment, reflect on the teachers of your own lifetime. See how, where, and when they shaped your human existence. See the good, the bad, and the indifferent in each of them.

Even when the teacher falls short, they fall short as a way for you to learn. This is where discernment plays a part for you. It is up to you to know when to take what you have need of and move on.

Even when the teacher has lifted you up. The same rules as above apply. No one teacher is the end all be all for any student.

But when you find that one who has taught you how to fly, then fly so that they can be free to lift up another and thank them for giving you wings.

There is a stillness in the energy, I can feel the anticipation of what is to come. The trees standing tall but still, silent but majestic, winter hanging on. Reflections of the past revealed while standing in the present, and where future events are calling to be revealed. The energy presents the fruit which is ripe for the picking.

No stone goes unturned, no answer to difficult to find. It is placed within your own hands and it is up to each individual to do their own due diligence.

What is your place within this new vibrant energy?

Where do you fit into the puzzle piece?

What purposeful moment is asking to be birthed through you?

As the world shifts and turns it can feel as if it is upside down. Stressful moments the most tangible to hang onto which drains the life blood from each human being who immerses themselves within it.

Today the energy offers you hope, resilience, a stillness within each of us. It is in the stillness where you can seek the clarity needed to move forward. It is in the stillness where others can hear what it is you have to say as it offers them a new fruitful vibrant path to follow.

It may not seem easy, but it is those who sit on their laurels that will tether themselves to the past. It is those whose ears are closed who will find themselves drowning in their own energy of choice.

Do not get lost in the overdoing and just plant the seeds and move on. Negative energy can become contagious. It is like a virus and can consume you until it has run its course.

Find your own voice in the silence of this energy. Be gentle yet firm, bend and sway as the tree does so that you do not break. Allow the branches to fall away when they are no longer able to grow with the tree. This is where you become like the tree and begin to adapt to your surroundings. This is how you grow ten feet in stature. This is where you will find your strength in the silence so that you will be able to flourish amongst your peers.

The windows give us a view to look through.

The doors present a threshold to cross over.

The walls become the reminder of what is not serving you.

Our physical house becomes a representation of our spiritual house. In our homes we have our favorite places we love to sit, windows that become our favorite to look out of, and multiple doors that we walk through daily.

Our spiritual house also encompasses windows, doors, and walls as well. But the windows appear in our minds eye and become the place where we can view the past, present, and the future. The doors that we walk through are the ones that we have created through what we have manifested in our hearts desire. The walls become the place that some refer to as blocks, yet these blocks can be overcome by talking the long way around them at times.

As we look at the duality of what we call home, our physical world becomes a mirrored reflection of our spiritual heart. Yes, we can present a spiritual face to the world. Yet the ego of our physical existence will still show its own face when it is out of alignment with our spirituality.

This is where your feet are not walking the path of both worlds and seem to be to heavily weighted in one or the other. This is where you are reminded of it through your own interaction with others. This is where people, at times, begin to fall away as the chaos of your own energy becomes too much for them to bear.

Today’s post is a reminder of the duality of your own existence. If you can tap into that duality, you can begin to see if a course correction is needed in any area of your life. This is where you can honor the human aspect of who you are, embrace the ego part of self, and where you can begin to align with your spiritual heart.

Life is all about understanding that we are multifaceted beings. Our souls harnessed in a human body as a way to experience the best of both worlds. It is up to each of us to know where that sweet spot is so that we can stand in what I would call a grace. This grace then affords you a place in which to navigate this world with opened eyes, a fluid mind, and the gift of discernment to recognize your own truth…..

I can feel a tense energy which has been brewing over the past two days. The way I can only describe this energy is as an edgy feeling, quick to anger, feeling uncomfortable in my own skin.

Even when I become aware of this energy it can at times get the best of me. Mindfulness is key here but the actions that follow the mindful part are what matters most. It is good to have a reminder like this even though the emotional black kettle of the past is being stirred.

We are midway through Mercury Retrograde in the sign of Aquarius. We are trucking through this fixed sign which symbolizes water. Water is key to our emotions. For instance, our over emotional mindset and at times irrational behavior can become amplified when tested during this time.

For me, my follow through is being tested as are old patterns of behavior resurfacing. I am a water sign so this could be key too why I am feeling so amped up during this time.

Look for things that have you tied to buried feelings between people in your past to resurface big time. Be aware that somethings may just not be settled for you or another person that revolves around this relationship. Look for a light to be shined upon your part in things and allow them to be rectified even if it feels uncomfortable.

Mercury Retrograde is giving you an opportunity to rehash or even to reshape the way that your emotions are driving you during this time. It is like that old comfortable slipper that you thought you had thrown away comes back to haunt you. What you do with the slipper is up to you. You will either put it on or you will recognize that you really are over it and toss it back in the trash.

Mercury Retrograde cycles are all different and this one is proving to be a thorn in some of our proverbial sides. In the end it is up to us to remove the thorn and allow what needs to be healed around relationships to begin.

On a World note, the old policies that seem to be coming back to haunt us are the reminder of how the past cannot serve our country now. The gift is Mercury is shining a light on these policies and you can look for States and some Government Officials to fight the status quo. Some of these policies will be stopped dead in their tracks, but the public may be the last to know.

It is this edgy, uncomfortable feeling that arises in me now, which tells me how it is being consumed by the masses. All you can do for now is be an innocent bystander to what seems insane. Be mindful and know that getting emotional over what you cannot control will only get the best of you in the end.

This too shall pass......

The answers lie within “The Well of your Own Wisdom”.

This leads me to that old saying; You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink. Why do you think that is? I would say, it is because they are not ready for your particular dose of truth. It may be that denial of the facts keeps them from quenching their own thirst due to an un-tempered ego. It could be that their pride at this particular time could not take the hit.

Oh, the human being and his divine gift of free will. This gift allows him to dwell in the circumstances of his own choices. That is part of human nature and the beauty of learning as we are each navigating a world of many.

I would say humanity as a whole wants the same thing, peace between themselves and their neighbors. They want to live as abundantly as they possibly can, yet all people are not in the same frame of mind all at the same time. We are all independently reaching for the same goal, yet how we get there is up to each of us.

The best thing that we can do for ourselves is to stand in the divine light of our own truth. This is where the well of our own wisdom allows us to drink freely of what we know as truth. Yes, we can share this truth with others, yet we cannot force them to believe it. What we can do is plant the seed and allow them to water it if and when they are ready to.

There is another saying that comes to mind here; When the student is ready the teacher will appear. This is what each of us are teachers of life’s experiences. Arbiters of truth as we know it to be. Yet as any good teacher would do, they will lead the student to the doorway and allow them to turn the handle. This is where a door will open up to them and offer them a threshold to cross when ready…..

You are never far from my mind

Different thoughts occupying my time

Will you still know me when I cross the great divide

In this World or the next, my heart moves like the tide

I am happy even though sometimes I cry

I miss your presence

My how time flys

When you return home then so will I

My love holds no measure

Life's rhythm has lost its time

I would move mountains if it would bring you near

Yet all I have to fall back on is love magic mirror.....

When we are focused only on color then we become colorblind to the truth......

Our world has become polarized by color, by race, by sexuality, by religion, and by so many opinions.

Our world has become divided like a dodgeball team with the captains picking what they deem as the strongest members to beat the opposing team.

Our world has become dominated by political correctness and if you don't bite the apple then you are considered not a team player.

Our world has moved away from unity and has taken a leap into the deep end of the pool of uncertainty.

People are afraid to speak, out of fear that they may say an offensive word in a crowd filled with strangers.

People are being ostracized by friends and family for not conforming to their new normal of control by the team captains.

People are no longer living their own lives as they wear the jerseys of their team captain's choosing.

The world was built with a coat of many colors yet we live in a world that is only choosing to use one of its five senses.

This creates a world of imbalance as sound, taste, smell, and feeling are shoved to the side in lieu of a one-world order of importance.

No longer are we allowed to stop and listen to the beauty of God's World as we have been given only one record to listen to.

No longer are we allowed to stop and smell the roses if the roses are a different color then what has been deemed approved.

No longer are we allowed to taste the sweetness of life as we are only given the bitters to place upon our tongues.

No longer are we allowed to feel from our own perspective as we are told you can only feel a certain way.

No longer are we co-creators with the universe as we have forgotten the importance of our independence.

No longer do we see the independence of people flourishing around us as they have given their power away to the team captains of their own choosing.

Can you see the danger of living your lives in such a way?

Can you see how you are no longer driving the car and have taken a back seat on a one-way street?

Have you forgotten the truth of your own authenticity?

Today, as I sit here, flush with the need to share my own thoughts.....I am reminded of a world that was once filled with opportunity for all.....which now seems to be a world steering us off the cliff with no parachute.......because we have sacrificed our own authenticity........

There are times when you may post something that is unpopular.

You can feel your heart tense up as you share your position.

You may be worried about what people will think of you. There are two sides to this same energy and there is only one pathway in which you can react.

A.) Your human ego has asked to be heard. It is this part of your humanness that helps you determine what is right or what is wrong for you. It is the part inside of you that screams No!!!! This is not my Truth!!!! Hear Me!!!!

B.) Your spiritual heart tries to remain neutral yet the importance of navigating a physical world cannot be overlooked. Spiritually you know that coloring inside of the lines will keep you safe.

Spiritually you begin to negate your physical world stance.

Which piece of you do you allow to lead the way and why?

Thoughts......

Juneteenth...... Numerology of 11/2

As I sit here this morning and see our country in turmoil I am also aware of the political spin by the masters of deception.

We are celebrating the 155th Anniversary of the Emancipation Proclamation issued by the authority of President Abraham Lincoln. The proclamation declared "that all persons held as slaves" within the rebellious states "are, and henceforward shall be free."

Today, I am hearing these words used by the spin masters on television, "what has history taught us" as they inflame the emotions within a culture of people who have never experienced slavery in their lifetime.

I am seeing how one race who has carried the cloth of slavery handed down from generation to generation, use it as a weapon wielded towards another race.

I am seeing how people are being manipulated to use racism as their badge of honor to keep people trapped in the mindset of the past.

I am seeing brutal acts perpetrated on white people all in the name of justice.

I am also seeing many white people who are in power, asking all white people to bow in the name of this injustice which was perpetrated on the black people who were enslaved in the 1800s.

I am seeing a culture of people, who had learned to peacefully commingle in a World of many, now divided as hatred towards people who are white in skin tone become their target.

These are my observations, yet I would like to go deeper and towards the spiritual aspect of this energy.

Let's begin as we all can see how one race now wants to enslave another race all in the name of justice as they say.

I am asking myself, how is this even going to make a difference as this old energy is being rebirthed in the New Age of Aquarius?

I can already feel people using the words "Karma" as justification but I call "Bull Feathers" as my Miss Jackie used to say. The energy of 155 years ago is being used against a single race of people even though people of all colors enslaved a population. I am witnessing how all white people are being lumped into one barrel of bad apples.

1+5+5=11 and today we have the Master Number 11 presenting itself during this time and as a teacher for us if only we can get out of our own way.

All the money in the World will never right this injustice and each child born to families whose ancestors were enslaved will continue to ask for a monetary payout. It is an energy that will never go away as each new person born says, "You Owe Me"......

Now, Master Number 11 teaches us much, and being a Master Number 11 myself I know that it connects us to a higher source of wisdom. It is also about higher intuition and spiritual insight, supernatural abilities, increased sensitivity, as well as empathy, and natural intelligence.

The Emancipation Proclamation was issued on January 1st, 1863 which boils down to the number 2.

1+1+1+8+6+3=20 2+0=2 which is the life path number for all Master Number 11's. Interesting isn't it???

The number 2 holds the energy of feminine force. It is a cooperative energy that aims to bring a sense of peace and balance back to a situation. Now isn't that we are all hoping for???

The beauty is this, we are in the energy to heal the past. This is where we can ask ourselves if we are truly ready to let go of the emotional state of being so that we can move towards forgiveness. This energy supports us in acknowledging that an injustice did occur over 155 years ago, yet it also gives us a window to see how through the evolution of a nation of people, it has given us the opportunity to learn from our past mistakes.

Now again, what has history taught us??? See for yourselves where your own heart is in the mix of things. Today we have the energy of Master Number 11 (Higher Wisdom) supporting the Number 2 Energy of (Peace and Resolution).

Our own higher wisdom gives us a peek into where people have been manipulated by the powerful to keep people trapped in the mindset of the past. Until we take stock of this truth, this old energy will continue to spin like an out of control tornado leaving nothing but destruction in its wake.....

Morning Reflections....

The moon was so bright last night as her crescent self hung out with the stars in the sky.

The simplicity of her hue, illuminating the World that lives just beneath her.

The silence of the midnight hour, the power of her guiding light.

As a child, and on our car rides home, mostly from my Aunt Dorothy's house, I would watch the moon from my perspective in the back seat of my parent's car.

It always seemed as if she was following me home, a guardian in the heavens above, shining a light so bright that even my mom could find her way to our house.

From my earliest memories, the moon has always given me comfort throughout the years as I have watched her wax and wane in the sky above.

It brings me to these thoughts this morning of how we, as humans, also wax and wane as we move through time. We go from being whole, to at times, only showing a piece of our brilliance as we gather ourselves back together to shine brightly once again.

During these interesting times in our World, it seems that most of humanity is stuck in the waning phase. Afraid to wax back to fullness because fear has stunted our growth. Not sure if the heavens above are supporting us, even though the stars and the planets that surround us are illuminated in their own brilliant light. Showing us, teaching us, guiding us to move away from fears grip so that we may wax to fullness once more.

Yes, it is time to remember to live and let live. It is time to grow into that fullness once again and experience the freedom to do so. It is time to allow yourselves the freedom of expansion and for you to trust in what your own spirit is trying to tell you.

Just like to moon, we move through phases of our lives as we experience these predestined moments in time. Just like the moon, we experience a sort of darkness only to be reawakened to the light once more. Just like the moon, we are supported fully by our guides and angels who whisper in our ears that it is okay to glow......

I am a Spiritual Light and I am a Human Being, both have an individual voice of their own.

One aspect cannot exist without the other as they were both created to intermingle in my everyday life.

I have come to recognize that my spirituality has a different voice than that of my human counterpart.

You see, my spirituality wears a cloak of humility, my humanness wears a cape built of ego.

They serve each other well when in balance with both divine aspects of self.

When out of alignment, the human aspect of self suffers.

When I become mindful of my suffering, it is then that I can regain the balance that had been temporarily lost.

It is my job and by choice that I have chosen to navigate the physical world, but at what costs?

If I ignore the innate part of self, I ignore the calling of my own soul's voice.

When I become aligned with that calling, it is then that my human life can prosper and grow.

I have learned that life is about choices, balance gained and being mindful of my own place within a world of many.

I have grown due to this understanding and I have fallen when I allow one voice to override the other.

This wisdom not only applies to me, but to you, the reader as well...... Peace

During this time in our history as a Nation I am drawn to the book of Moses, Exodus 12:22 to 12:24

22: Take a cluster of hyssop, dip it into the blood in the basin, and brush the top and the two side posts of the door-frame with some of the blood. None of you shall go out of the door of his house until morning

23: When the LORD goes through the land to strike down the Egyptians, he will see the blood on the top and sides of the door-frame and will pass over that doorway, and he will not permit the destroyer to enter your houses and strike you down.

24: And you are to keep this command as a perpetual ordinance for you and your descendants.…

Growing up in a Catholic household The Ten Commandments played on our television each Easter Eve as we awaited the announcement in Mass the following morning that "He has Risen".

I can hear Joshua say to Moses with the door wide open, death is upon us.

Moses says to Joshua, close the door and allow death to pass us by. Joshua who trusts in the word of God closes the door before death arrives.

People gathered in the house of Moses, some of them fearing death while others knew that God would carry them through the night.

Moses breaking bread with those who gathered around his table, standing firmly in his faith and as a beacon of light for others during a dark time.

It seems to me that we may be in an energy similar to that of Moses's lifetime.

What was going on then that has been recreated during our lifetime?

How have we fallen away from Universal Law and Physical World Law?

I have seen people running amuck, bucking the system and causing great harm to one another. I have seen crimes against humanity by those who have a disregard for the safety of their fellow man, woman, and child. I have seen here in America and in other nations, the rouge who are trying to silence the voices of those they hope to keep silent. I have seen many trying to implement an agenda that does not serve everyone but only a few.

The tax collectors, the Egyptian Soldiers, the freeing of the Hebrew Slave. The powers that be, rebuking God, as they pray to False God's and worship False Prophets.

Exodus 8:19

“This is the finger of God!” the magicians exclaimed to Pharaoh. But Pharaoh’s heart remained hard. He wouldn’t listen to them, just as the LORD had predicted.

Why are lessons of the past revealing themselves in our present-day now and where have we gone awry?

How far have we fallen away from the laws of the land and become selfish in nature?

When I see the hoarding going on and people living in fear of an invisible virus I can't help but be drawn to this scripture. In the movie as Moses went up to the mountain to speak with God, on the third day the natives got restless. Aaron had convinced those freed to build an altar, melt all their gold to create a False God in the shape of a calf to worship. They ate, drank and disregarded God's word.

Exodus 32:7

Then the Lord said to Moses, “Go down, because your people, whom you brought up out of Egypt, have become corrupt.

32:8 They have been quick to turn away from what I commanded them and have made themselves an idol cast in the shape of a calf. They have bowed down to it and sacrificed to it and have said, ‘These are your gods, Israel, who brought you up out of Egypt.’

Who are we worshiping as our saviors here? Who are we placing on pedestals and who are we fighting against is the real question? Why has a World gone so crazy and by whose hand have we allowed ourselves to be led?

Food for thought today as we all navigate this unknown territory.

I am curious as to what the miracle of this particular Easter Season will be and in the year 2020?

I ask myself this, how do we find our way back to center and begin to honor the creation of life itself?

I can tell you this much when we are given the script of history to follow and so clearly, it is up to each of us to follow the bread crumbs for ourselves......

"There are many lights too which people are drawn to, and as such, the teacher appears in the form of that light.

Not one light is quite equal to another, as the level of growth in which the student is seeking, is presented for that level of evolution.

In the end, all souls do seek the highest learning possible during each incarnation, yet the lessons dictate the darkness before the light appears.

Yes, all souls are created with equal amounts of love, parts of wisdom and dashes of knowledge, yet each will grow at a rate that is required by them"......The Council of Nine

The Law of Attraction and the duality of one energy.....

We were all born into a world where we become co-creators with the Universe. From our earliest thoughts, we have created the reality around us.

Keep in mind that all energy has a duality to it and depending on where your thoughts and emotions are aligned, you tend to create a reality that is governed by those things.

Abundance versus Lack, Rich versus Poor, Capitalism versus Socialism.

Let's use this as a perfect example of the duality in the law of attraction, Capitalism versus Socialism. This seems to be a hot button topic here in America and allows us to see in real-time the aspects of both.

The beauty of Capitalism is that it falls in alignment with the Law of Attraction. This is the ABC's of what everyone is taught about how the Law of Attraction works in an open and free society. What we think, feel or believe to be true for ourselves can be created. We have the power to create great wealth or live in a state of lack. The Law of Attraction teaches us these truths.

Nothing is stolen, all things created freely, karmic patterns falling in alignment with each person’s sojourn. America, for instance, gives everyone the opportunity to create. It is what I would refer to as The American Dream and what every person who desires to live in America travel the roads to what they see as riches.

Socialism is the opposite side of the spectrum and where the powerful want to keep you wanting as they fill you with a false sense of truth. They will tell you one thing yet they will live by a different set of standards.

This is the smokescreen of illusion generated from a standpoint of fear. Keep the people scared and we can commandeer their free will in the name of deceit. They give a misrepresentation of the truth and this is where the powerful begin to divide and conquer. Before you know it the American Dream is lost for everyone but a few at the top, sound familiar???

This is what you have been hearing and blasted over the tv screens and on social media. Yet the truth is not far out of reach for those who want to utilize the population to prop up the wealth of a government and its overseers.

Keep in mind that the powerful have gotten rich off of the backs of those who are considered the working class of any nation. Look at Hong Kong for instance, a nation of people fighting to keep their freedoms and their money from a government that lives by the laws of socialism yet calls itself communism. They become the mirrored reflection of what America will begin to look like if we allow fear to commandeer our common sense.

Socialism just gives the powerful in government a bigger piece of your own pie. You get the crumbs as they get the lions share of your hard-earned money. The Law of Attraction has no room to grow in a socialism society as you become penalized for your wealth in the name of taxation.

The powerful have now commandeered your free will and sooner or later the working people begin to go without. They are given scraps in the name of compassion for all but have been fooled into doing the powerful's bidding.

These are only my views but from a spiritual perspective no less. If someone caps your ability to enjoy the fruits of your own labor then your own labor is for naught.

Keep in mind that the Law of Attraction is only one aspect of Universal Law. We are governed by two sets of laws and a lawless government creates disharmony for the people of its nation. In the end, when a government allows its people to flourish then their countries will do the same.

We have all been there, I will start tomorrow and then tomorrow becomes a repeat of the day before where you repeat the same old mantra.....I only need one more day and then I will start.....

Yes, this is a very human part of our essence so where is the spiritual part you ask? It is in the lesson of what you are putting off today. Our humanness and our spirituality run the same circuit and within the same circle of friends if you will.

What challenges us the most in life becomes a peek into the lessons our souls came back here to re-learn.

Let's use weight loss as an example, I think most of you can relate to that. Some people fight this battle for a lifetime. They have good intentions and the weight comes off. It is like a revolving door and as it goes out of the door, it then comes right back in again to a warm familiar place called home.

Each battle with our weight becomes like a fierce competitor. Depending upon our state of mind will determine the final outcome when that bell is rung by the referee at the end of each round.

The lesson is not only about weight, but it is also about the self-worth of the person. It is about the emotional state of being of that person and where they cease to truly exist in their own minds. It is about the way they see their own value and how much the opinions of others matter to them. The fight can only be won when the fighter steps forth with a clear view of their competitor's strengths and weaknesses. This is where a long hard look in the mirror tells the story of the suffering that is internal.

Weight is not only an external factor, it is also an internal battle of the mind, emotions, and the will of the fighter. The words of others that have stung the heart of the fighter become the fighters biggest obstacle. Those words play like a broken record. They tend to set the fate of the fighters match each time he steps into the ring with the brawler before him.

The fighter does have a good chance to win this time around. But he must ask himself this, do I win by sheer luck or do I win through great determination in the battle of this lifetime? Am I capable of beating my competitor or do the words of others win in the ring each time?

A lesson can only be learned when the person is finally ready for that win. This only happens when the deep truth of who they are becomes more important than the words spoken by others. The competitor has to look in the mirror and say I love you no matter what and a healthy me is more important than a skinny me.

I can tell you this much, God makes no mistakes and each of us were created with great care. We were all made in different shapes and sizes for a reason. We were made this way because we are not alone in learning from the battles that we fight. It is bigger than that, this is where those around us learn a great deal about themselves through the words and actions taken against us.

If you want to lose weight do it for yourself and love your body from the beginning to the end. Be realistic in your views when it comes to losing weight and understand that your body was built to serve you and not to defeat you. Don't set your sights on looking like a thin model you see on tv or in a magazine but allow your body to show you what it is supposed to look like. This is where you are in total control of the outcome as the acceptance of your own body transformation wins over an unrealistic viewpoint......